Happy to succeed
One of the things I love about New Age teaching is that it is so empowering. I create my reality! Here is an extract from an article from the American Psychological Association in which researchers have discovered that rather than success creating happiness, it is in fact the other way around. Conventional wisdom says that when my circumstances are right, then will I be happy. But New Age teaching says that when we declare “I AM HAPPY”, thus are my circumstances so defined.
Here’s the extract.
“Personal and professional success may lead to happiness but may also engender success. Happy individuals are predisposed to seek out and undertake new goals in life and this reinforces positive emotions, say researchers who examined the connections between desirable characteristics, life successes and well-being of over 275,000 people. From a review of 225 studies in the current issue of Psychological Bulletin, published by the American Psychological Association (APA), lead author Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., of the University of California, Riverside found that chronically happy people are in general more successful across many life domains than less happy people and their happiness is in large part a consequence of their positive emotions rather than vice versa. Happy people are more likely to achieve favorable life circumstances, said Dr. Lyubomirsky, and “this may be because happy people frequently experience positive moods and these positive moods prompt them to be more likely to work actively toward new goals and build new resources. When people feel happy, they tend to feel confident, optimistic, and energetic and others find them likable and sociable. Happy people are thus able to benefit from these perceptions.”
January 11, 2008 at 9:09 am
The ole’ Self Nurturing skills again… A LOT becomes clear the moment we realize our feelings are our OWN. It is very empowering, yes. So long as we’re not used to being an emotional dependent.
January 11, 2008 at 9:14 am
Hi Sue,
I just feel rather “dis-connected” from my feelings and want to explore reconnecting the bits back together, and accepting that my feelings do tell me the truth and are my friend and can be trusted.
I tend to be more of a thinker than a feeler. Years of churches telling me that feelings cannot be trusted have caused me to push them down and ignore them. Right now I’m just becoming aware that I have feelings and I’m trying to reconnect with them bit by bit. No danger of me turning into some emotional dependent
Jon
January 11, 2008 at 3:36 pm
Ohhhh…it was not you I was in any way referencing. The social organizations most of us have grown up in and around, calling themselves “religions”, are those that are emotionally dependent. Ponder it for a moment…
How many limitations have I placed on my feelings if all of them are dependent upon other people’s compliance? Not understanding, mind you, because that would entail using reason to add ideas together in a way that makes sense, but compliance. O b e d i e n c e.
Bark bark.
I’m not surprised you fled into your head to escape sensing all the contradictions and insensitivity. It’s what we all do! We distance ourselves as far as possible from our feelings. But this is a step in the path of our progress!
It’s only through thinking, through using our intellect that we can master our instincts. Our horses aren’t going to run away with us, if we’re holding their reins firmly.
The next step from intellect, is intuition. Taking this step involves submersing ourselves in our feelings. Now I say that being “sensitive” doesn’t have anything to do with a lot of boohooing. “you hurt my feelings; bad you” Sensitivity has to do with Awareness. And before our awareness expands, we have to be balanced and stable, mentally and emotionally or, what we would see, would fry us. We’d self destruct on the spot.
Many times the example of walking through a dark tunnel to reach the light is told. And I share this Gift with you. The darks walls of our tunnels disappear the moment we realize We ARE that Light.
I know the submersion is scary. I’ve been there too. I haven;t always been “this” way. (always odd but never this far off before…
Our fear is one of the reasons I’m here. In this ‘now’. To help make it less so.
Lots of us have been afraid, imagining we are alone. But we’re not. The moment we allow ourselves to feel again, The PRESENCE within us makes itself known. From that moment on, life is like that story of the set of footprints in the sand. Sure, I’ve gone through *awful* stuff but whenever I have, I’ve known all along that I am being and will be, carried all the way through. I live a reality living in a Universe I can Trust.
As a matter if fact, that’s how I’m facing going back into the hospital for more surgery in one week’s time. Like I’m going on a vacation to a Swedish spa, to be waited upon hand and foot.
{{hugs}}
January 11, 2008 at 7:57 pm
Sue Ann,
Thank you for yet more words of wisdom. I’m really starting to get interested and more focused on my feelings AND also on my passions, both of which have tended to go without much of a voice in my life for way too long. It’s almost like learing to walk or ride a bike. Really hard at first - a big conscious effort - but after a while it “becomes natural.” In my case, it’s more about “unbecoming un-natural” because of denying part of Who I Really Am to fit in with Other Peoples Rules even though they went against what my natural self was feeling and expressing. Thanks for pointing out that this is a step on the road to awareness. I’m sure you will have a most enjoyable stay in the Swedish spa and everyone who works there will be glad you were kind enough to call by for a few days.
Jon