Looking at pornography

In answer to the question “Should a christian look at pornography?” the first thing I’m going to do is rephrase the question to “Should anyone look at pornography?”, and the answer is surprisingly simple.

What sort of person are you, and what sort of person do you want to be?

Robot Porn

If you want to be someone who views women as sexual objects who perform for male sexual satisfaction, then you should watch as much porn as you possibly can.

If you want to be someone who struggles with your own sexuality because what you are experiencing is not at all like what you see in the porn films, then you should watch as much porn as possible.

Porn takes you into a fictional world where woman have over-sized feminine everything and are endowed with male sexuality – the ultimate transference of male sexual frustration into physical form. If you want to feed your confusion over sexual identity then you should watch as much porn as possible.

If you want to develop a mindset that sex is all about you and how you feel and what you are getting, then you should watch as much porn as possible.

If you want to construct your sexual identity, attitudes and expectations on top of films made by actors who need the money, then you should watch as much porn as possible.

What sort of person are you, and what sort of person do you want to be?

A sorry observation indeed

Here is a sample of what I get almost every day in the search text that people have typed in and got to my blog:

masturbation is wrong
sin masturbation
divorce masturbation sin
church says masturbation is sin
masturbation hell evil
bible masturbation right wrong 

Following an earlier post, I only hope each of these poor people will wake up to the plain and simple fact that there is nothing wrong whatsoever with masturbation, that the bible says nothing at all about masturbation, and that the christian church has twisted and bent this simple gift into a grotesque and unrecognisable act of shame. The only reason so many people are struggling with this otherwise very simple issue is because what they have been told by other people is in conflict with what their own feelings are telling them.

To everyone who has ever taught that masturbation is a sin, I tell you that you are a false teacher and a liar, that you have heaped unecessary guilt of those who have trusted your words, and that you should apologise to each and every person that you have deceived.

To everyone who has ever been taught that masturbation is a sin, I tell you that your sexuality is given to you by God and is very good. You are free to discover and enjoy this aspect of your sexuality in the full knowledge that you do this with God’s full blessing and that you have nothing to fear.

Christianity, the evils of masturbation, and other such nonsense.

When I was 16 I converted to christianity with a dramatic experience of joy and freedom. I was then told that masturbation was a sin, and since back then in those days I believed that what christian leaders said was true, I spent the next 8 years (I married at 24) battling and struggling and weeping and confessing and repenting against my own sexuality. Looking back I see now what a misguided and un-necessary waste of my energy and time! I am still angry at the church for having robbed me of so much of the joy of my teenage years because of this simple but stupid lie. The christian religion has done more to twist, contort and generally ruin the beauty of human sexuality than all of “Satan’s demons” put together.